According to Leo Buscaglia, an American university professor who
is widely known for his numerous studies, researches and books on
love, "Perfect love is rare indeed - for to be a lover will require
that you continually have the subtlety of the very wise, the flexibility
of the child, the sensitivity of the artist, the understanding of
the philosopher, the acceptance of the saint, the tolerance of the
scholar and the fortitude of the certain".
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Resultantly, regardless of the number of years that you have been married,
you will agree with me that marriage is the most delicate undertaking
in this world, and for it to thrive and survive, it requires consistent
nourishment, unabashed attention, constant compromise and the daily
renewal of our marital vows. But with the world experiencing the HIGHEST
level of stress due to globalization, demand for higher productivity,
depleting natural resources, increasing prices for basic human and societal
needs, not-so-increasing wages, double income, escalating debt rate,
widening gap between the rich and the poor, simultaneous large and small
wars, mass immigration, global warming, growing demand for "impenetrable
security", demolition/extinction of basic ethics and morals, and so
on and so forth, how do we make our marriage thrive and survive when
statistics indicates that one in every two marriage NOW ends up in divorce?
At The Exhortation World Outreach, we STRONGLY believe the following
about marriage:
It is between a man and a woman EXCLUSIVELY, and was created by God
for the purposes of Procreation, Mutual Support and Mutual Satisfaction.
MARITAL STRESS and regrettably, divorce, is more due to the lack of
wisdom, understanding and knowledge about the concept of marriage than
the statistical claim of incompatibility.
The key to MARITAL GROWTH is in individually, and as a couple, hopefully,
cultivating The REAL Desire to make it happen. The REAL Desire means
to tirelessly pursue marital wisdom, understanding and knowledge through
the Bible and other applicable spiritual and self-help books; seeking
and considering advices from other people; and the willingness to humbly
change personal character traits in order to prepare the way for God
to BLESS your effort.
And recognizing the consistent necessity for ENCOURAGEMENT
in this life's most blissful journey, The Marriage
Enrichment Forum was formed by The Exhortation World Outreach
to act as a SOURCE of ENCOURAGEMENT for couples with The
REAL Desire to cultivate BLISS in their marriage and relationship.
Facilitated on a quarterly basis by Alex
Nosa Ihama, the forum brings DETERMINED couples together
to discuss marital successes and challenges, as well as applicable tools,
techniques and resources in a fun, open setting for the purpose of EQUIPPING,
ENRICHING, EMPOWERING, ENERGIZING and ENCOURAGING their respective relationship
and marriage.
According to Kassie, a regular participant in these forums, "My husband
and I really enjoy the Marriage Enrichment Forums; not only are they
great date nights, they are very informative and lots of fun. It is
great to be reminded of how we really are NOT alone in our marriages".
In the words of Wendy, another regular participant, "The Marriage Enrichment
Forums remind me that our environmental and familial influences merge
together to make us who we are today. I learned that through having
constant involvement with strong Christians who are willing to be real
with us, we can be vulnerable and molded. One of the most rewarding
parts in (one of) the forums was when we were asked to turn to our spouse
and let them know what we appreciate about them. This was a simple,
but very important reminder that enabled us to not take for granted
our amazing spouse. The forums that you have offered thus far have been
extremely valuable to us. You may have no idea". (You may refer to the
Feedback
Corner for other feedbacks)
With the age of regular participants ranging from twenties to near sixties,
and married years ranging from less than a year to over 30 years, the
diversity of the participants provides the forum with a vaster pool
of KNOWLEDGE and EXPERIENCE to draw from. This is in addition
to the participants being representations of numerous cultural backgrounds
like Cameroun, Nigeria and South Africa from Africa; Barbados, Jamaica
and Trinidad and Tobago from the Caribbean; as well as Australia, Malaysia,
India, England and Switzerland, amidst a good number of Canadians. Another
benefiting composition is the participation of couples of diverse religions,
interracial marriages and blended families.
The remarkable diversity of the participants was intentionally
created in order to strategically position the forum to meet the marital
needs of the diverse people in our society. It enables more seasoned
marital discussions based on many, many years' worth of marriage knowledge
and experience, as well as tables the best tactics of how to ENRICH
and ENERGIZE marriages from numerous cultural and religious perspectives.
"If man is to survive", Gene Roddenberry once quipped, "he will have
learned to take a delight in the essential differences between men and
between cultures. He will learn that differences in ideas and attitudes
are a delight, part of life's exciting variety, not something to fear".
In his welcome speeches, Alex often commends participants for seizing
the opportunity to learn more about how to ENRICH and ENERGIZE their
marriages. He said that from his own personal experience, and also after
working with so many couples to energize their marriages, opportunities
like this Marriage Enrichment Forum
is VERY instrumental in marital growth, for it provides opportunity
to discuss and learn (or relearn) new ideas from other couples. In his
words to participants, "Your enthusiasm about participating in this
Marriage Enrichment Forum indicates
your desire to have a more fulfilling relationship with your spouse.
So consider yourselves heroes and heroines because I am confident that
Satan must have given you every possible reason not to attend, but your
desire PREVAILED. And may God continue to give you the strength necessary
to keep the devil at bay from your marriages".
While the Marriage Enrichment Forum
is also a place to learn applicable tools, techniques and resources
on how to help your spouse deal with his or her own marital or personality
challenges, husbands and wives, and even dating and engaged partners
are mainly EXHORTED to implement personal changes that often instigate
and influence the personal effectiveness of their partners for the better.
At EVERY Marriage Enrichment Forum, participants are guaranteed
to learn and/or relearn at least one thing that will help take their
marriage to an even greater height. In the words of Roger,
a husband of fourteen years, and yet another regular participant in
the Marriage Enrichment Forum, "Learning
about other couples' experiences can bring a lot in your marriage; my
wife and I have learned a lot from these seminars, especially when people
are open-minded. We learn practical ways to improve our marriage, and
are always looking forward to joining the group at the next session".
For the dates of upcoming Marriage Enrichment forums, please visit the
"Program" section of our website.
Thank you for your support! We rely on your feedback for encouragement,
as well as to identify ways to better serve you. So please email your
feedback directly to alex.ihama@theexhortation.com,
and you will get a personalized reply within a few days. To review other
feedbacks, kindly visit our Feedback
Corner.
The website is so edifying and empowering. It cuts across to meet the
social, emotional, financial, relationship, physical and spiritual needs
of everyone. I am so blessed and encouraged by the words on it. The World
needs more of you with such excellent service provision.
Keep up the good work; your labour of love is not in vain.
As a young
man, Al was a skilled artist, a potter. He had a wife and two fine sons.
One night, his oldest son developed a severe stomach ache. Thinking it was
only some common intestinal disorder, neither Al nor his wife took the condition
seriously
“I have no doubt whatever
that most people live, whether physically, intellectually, or morally,
in a very restricted circle of their potential being. They make use
of a very small portion of their possible consciousness... much like
a man who, out of his whole body organism, should get into the habit
of using and moving only his little finger... We all have reservoirs
of life to draw upon, of which we do not dream.” - William
James